Don't do that

 Recent events has caused me to travel down memory lane.  This is how I remember it.

I had a great boyfriend in high school for 4 years.  I thought all guys were nice like he was.  Never called me names.  Never hit me.  Never cheated on me.  Always brought me little things like gum or a coke.  Came to see me at work.  Planned time together....  That is not the case with most men.  

I married at 20 to a guy I thought was pretty awesome, until he wasn't.  

Was I perfect?  NO!  

First off I was spoiled.  I was use to the world revolving around me and my needs.  At 20, most people are still living that fairy tail. I am basing so many things on my 4 year relationship in high school, on my own parents marriage... never mind that by the time I was married they had been married for 35+ years.  They had worked out the kinks!

At any rate, I was 20 and he was 21.  He was worthless.  He didn't want a job and when he found one he didn't want to keep it.  He like to smoke weed and hang out with his friends.  He never wanted to come home and when I got pregnant he didn't want to be a dad. Flat out.

He has 4 kids that I know of and wasn't a father to any of them until the last kid and I am not sure he is much of a father to him.  Who knows.  

Now, I'm wondering how that could possibly by my fault if he has a pattern of such behavior.

He has been trying to talk to our now adult son and doesn't want to open the conversation with,  "I know I did you wrong.. but instead he wants to make it look like I didn't allow him.  Good try old buddy!  I lived that life and I know better.  If he had a relationship with all the others then  that might be believable.  Don't waste what time you could have left by lying . 

I have loved that boy since the moment I found out I was going to have him. And he knows that.  If you think for one minute I would do anything that made him sad you need  a new conversational piece.  

Fact 101

Loyalty is a thing.  Either you have it or you don't, and if you don't... Karma!

And that is all I am going to say about that!

They are all growing up so fast

 

Grandbabies are the culprits

Katie and the kids came over today to catch up on laundry since her power is out.  They got to the house around 12:30 and left around 9:00.  They even laid on the couch and watched a movie!  I still got 12,452 steps in because we played outside and ran like crazy!  Still didn't close my rings, but I don't want to give myself a heart attack!

I had a lot of fun getting to spend time with them, but they are a lot of work and I am exhausted!  I am not use to this sort of activity on a daily! lol  I sit at a desk for Petes sake!

10 Ways to survive your next ice storm

1. Don't live paycheck to paycheck! Save money for emergencies. Put money up and don't touch it except for emergencies. It can be all the change you get when you break a bill... and don't use it for cigarettes. Work odd jobs for emergency money... Babysit, do someone's laundry, pet watch. Just knowingly do that for this emergency fund.
2. Put Extra food for the cupboard...Food you can fix on the gas stove top or eat cold. Have bread, peanut butter, chips, soups, velveeta cheese, if you have a gas stove, you can make a lot of things. It saves on food and uses the food you have. before it goes bad.
3. Have Big blankets and candles ready and have a blow up bed ready for sleeping where the heat is or if company crashes to wait out the storm.
4. Have plenty of firewood, enough to burn for at least 3 days and keep it in a dry place.
5. Keep your laundry up so you have those comfy Sweats. 
6. Have flashlights and batteries on hand at all times. 
7. Have a battery charger ready to give your phone that extra life until you have to find another way to charge it.
8. Even water if the pipes freeze up. 
9.  Put some projects aside you can do if you have days to entertain yourself, like creating photo albums, or painting a room. Have puzzles, and games readily available. Netflix on an ipad for a special treat before bed...
10. Have instant coffee and a tea kettle.