Empty Nester

My thought process is pretty simple. 

I think it’s OK to have been that involved mother that made dinner for the team and stressed over Cheerleading tryouts. The mom that ran missing homework up to them at school and Freezed your ass off at football games 4  nights a week.  Having the occasional slumber party for all the new cheerleaders or putting on some prom before dinner event We went to the chili cook off‘s,  to the mini dance recitals and school plays.  The talent shows and basketball games and baseball games. 

I think it’s OK to have been that heavily involved with your children. 

I think it’s only natural that when they move out you do have a sense of loss because your identity has been formed around their needs for so long that it is stressful to try to find your way back. 

But at that point you either decide you are your own person or you don’t. You find your own interests... you find your own hobbies.... your own friends, and you find your own life. A new life... but your life.

If you were a controlling parent you probably have a hard time letting that go when they moved on. Instead of seeing it as a job well done you see it as a competition between what I want them to do and what they are doing.

Let it go moms.  Let it go.

A misbehaving kid is a discouraged kid, or a disempowered kid, or a kid missing the skills to deal with a challenge they were given. There’s always a reason for a behavior. And building strong relationships will help me find the reason more often than not. 

This happens all the time!

Dennis:  I ate too much!

Me: What did you eat?

Dennis: I ate an entire pizza...

Me: The whole thing?

Dennis: Yeah and 10 cookies.

*** 20 minutes later... Dennis is in the cookie jar again where he eats more cookies.***

Me: Didn't you just say you ate too much?

Dennis: Yeah.

Me: Then why did you just eat more cookies?

Dennis: Cause I have a problem.... okay!?

Three Important Tips

Being connected with the wrong 👎 people will take you down the wrong path. Being connected with the right people will help you soar! -Lady Crisette Ellis

I am truly learning to pay close attention to what people do, not what they say! #actionspeakslouderthanwords

Stop talking about other people and start talking about your goals! You bring about what you talk about!!😉

Riddle me this

 

The main rebuttal I read about white privilege is that has nothing to do with what time you have to wake up in the mornings,  your work ethic or how hard you have to work.  It’s just your  skin color and how it makes your life either easier or harder.  

Alright.  Then explain to me Oprah. 

How, back in the day, a black woman work her way up to the human God she is now in the eyes of the media, and how do I get there as a white person??  

How is the NBA in the NFL at least 70% made up of black Americans?  There are black American millionaires everywhere and people are still oppressed.  

Explain to me Carli B?  She is rude, crude, untalented and dumb as a box of rocks and can't even speak adequate english.  She is from the hood, like so many of those other "OPPRESSED" black people, yet she is 1000 times richer than me for reasons I will never be able to explain.  

Is my skin color at fault for your lack of success?  Or is it just easier to blame the white people?  We are the same!