I Don’t Understand the Need to Dwell

Maybe it’s my generation or maybe it's because I don't have the time for unnecessary complaints, but I've come across numerous posts from women who seem to crave attention, admiration, or are fixated on past incidents. Now, I can understand if someone is a public speaker on a particular topic, traveling from event to event, but posting it on social media as a status update doesn't quite qualify.

I left an abusive marriage without wasting time documenting or dwelling on it for months. Once things started turning sour, I swiftly relocated myself and my children 248 miles away, forging a better life. I don't need to make excuses for my ex-husband, nor do I feel the need to repeatedly go over the details of my life that I've already shared. 

However, there are some individuals who can't seem to let go and continuously revisit, retell, and rehash what they've already disclosed. They have a tendency to overshare and it becomes rather evident that their constant posts about their negative experiences are nothing more than a cry for attention, admiration, or simply an obsession with the past.

 It's important to reflect on our past experiences and learn from them, but constantly dwelling on them can hinder personal growth. Instead of fixating on the negative, it's more productive to focus on moving forward and creating a positive future. Sharing our experiences can be therapeutic, but when it becomes a repetitive cycle, it may indicate a deeper issue that needs to be addressed. Seeking professional help or finding healthy outlets for emotional expression can be beneficial in these situations. Letting go of the past and embracing the present can lead to a happier and more fulfilling life.