No to NOVEMBER Drama! Eff that noise!

Let me paint a picture of my October for you, folks!  Or perhaps I will just post one! 

As someone who has always adored the fall, this season has really given me a run for my money. First off, I had the unfortunate pleasure of experiencing allergy-induced bronchitis. And let me tell you, it's TRUE!!  Ain't nobody got time for that! To make matters worse, I had to help my mom move apartments, which led to a near-walking pneumonia because I didn't take the bronchitis seriously enough. Cue two rounds of antibiotics and a delightful pack of steroids later, and I'm finally on the road to recovery. But wait....

Just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, I had a clumsy encounter with a hole in the yard and ended up spraining my ankle pretty damn bad. The ER confirmed it wasn't broken, but boy did it hurt like a bitch. While the soft cast was a saving grace for my ankle, those damn crutches were an entirely different story. My armpits were in for some serious pain.  I only lasted a measly four days on those torturous things before deciding limping around was a better option. Sitting around did nothing for my bronchitis, which was apparently clinging to my lungs like a stubborn ex. To top it all off, I was blessed with a fun little bout of vertigo that stuck around for weeks. Because who doesn't want to be dizzy while trying to walk?

To add insult to injury, we also experienced a tragic loss in the family and had to travel for a funeral. The silver lining was seeing my sweet Aunt and cousins, but returning to reality meant heading back home to work. With all these ailments piling up, I had to postpone surgery three times!  But I eventually had to bite the bullet and have the surgery the morning after Halloween.And let me tell you, as a daycare owner and a grandma to 11, that was no piece of cake!

Here's to hoping November treats me a little kinder! 

If Your Sling shots not Loaded, his attitude is

My family having a blended political conversation over our family GroupMe 🤦🏼‍♀️

1:22 p.m. 

Dad: Make sure your guns are loaded and your fridge is full!!!

Benjamin: ?

Stephanie: 👀

Benjamin: I think I must have missed something.

Stephanie: same

Dennis: And your money is under mattress 

Stephanie: Again… 👀

Benjamin.: I have all my money in beanie baby stock

Stephanie: 😂

Dad: Look what’s happening in Israel, our fucking leader released 6 billion $ to Iran, a lot of these people coming across border are from Iran, they are chanting death to Americans, shits happening! Just my thoughts.

Katie: I'm scared

Katie: My fridge is Def not full lol

Stephanie: 🥴🫣

Dennis: And now that goofy fuck says start building the border wall, too late, terorist all ready in America.

Tanner: 1 more year with this idiot dad

Benjamin: I heard he started building it again. Pretty ironic 

Stephanie: You said goofy fuck 😆😆

Benjamin: But I'm not sure he's making the decisions. He's barely alive.

Dad: He not making any decisions, Omar, Talib, Obama making ALL decisions 

Katie: So are we moving in with you Dad? 

Katie: 🙃

Tanner: I’m scared now. I don’t have any guns!!

Tanner: I have a hockey stick, some knives, and a slingshot. 

Stephanie: 😂

Katie: Lol this is why its good to have at least 1 gun

Matthew: I’ve got a pretty big attitude. That otta be enough 

Tanner: 😂

Tanner: Well I got two guns, just no bullets. ;-)

Katie: Doesn't do much good without bullets lol

Tanner: *flex*💪🏻

8:22 p.m

Mom: Goodness!!!

My funny husband

Watching cops where a woman got arrested, and her husband said he'd try to find money to bail her out, piqued my curiosity to ask Dennis... Would you bail me out of jail?

Dennis: Why did you get arrested?

Me: 😒 Does it matter?!

Dennis: well yeah!  If you got arrested for soliciting prostitution, probably not! 😳😁 

LOL, this man's got jokes!

A Wieght has been lifted

I have attended therapy sessions and consulted with tarot reading phyics who have advised me to distance myself from negative individuals in my life. They have explained that such people can bring about significant emotional burdens and strain on friendships. However, I have always held the belief that by staying friends with them, I could somehow help them with a more optimistic environment. But there comes a point when I must establish boundaries, especially when I find myself receiving lectures from someone who is not unable to manage their own financial situation from paycheck to paycheck without asking for handouts.

It's important for me to prioritize my own well-being and mental health, and being constantly surrounded by negativity can be detrimental. While it may be difficult to let go of these friendships, I have come to understand that sometimes it's necessary for my own growth and happiness. Cutting ties with negative individuals doesn't mean I don't care about them, but rather, it allows me to create space for positive and supportive relationships. It's essential to surround myself with people who uplift and inspire me, individuals who share similar values and goals.

I Don’t Understand the Need to Dwell

Maybe it’s my generation or maybe it's because I don't have the time for unnecessary complaints, but I've come across numerous posts from women who seem to crave attention, admiration, or are fixated on past incidents. Now, I can understand if someone is a public speaker on a particular topic, traveling from event to event, but posting it on social media as a status update doesn't quite qualify.

I left an abusive marriage without wasting time documenting or dwelling on it for months. Once things started turning sour, I swiftly relocated myself and my children 248 miles away, forging a better life. I don't need to make excuses for my ex-husband, nor do I feel the need to repeatedly go over the details of my life that I've already shared. 

However, there are some individuals who can't seem to let go and continuously revisit, retell, and rehash what they've already disclosed. They have a tendency to overshare and it becomes rather evident that their constant posts about their negative experiences are nothing more than a cry for attention, admiration, or simply an obsession with the past.

 It's important to reflect on our past experiences and learn from them, but constantly dwelling on them can hinder personal growth. Instead of fixating on the negative, it's more productive to focus on moving forward and creating a positive future. Sharing our experiences can be therapeutic, but when it becomes a repetitive cycle, it may indicate a deeper issue that needs to be addressed. Seeking professional help or finding healthy outlets for emotional expression can be beneficial in these situations. Letting go of the past and embracing the present can lead to a happier and more fulfilling life.