It's Not Just About You.

Don't you find posts like this frustrating and self-serving? It's puzzling why people feel the need to put them out there. Maybe they're seeking attention? Lately, I've seen countless posts like this across social media platforms, especially since the new year. It's a type of cleansing technique that some people use to convince themselves that they deserve undivided attention. But here's the thing: you should know your worth without seeking validation from others!

Sure, one can understand the message about the challenges of one-sided relationships. However, there's often more to the story as to why your friends aren't constantly blowing up your phone. Sometimes they're dealing with serious issues like anxiety, depression, or introversion. And let's not forget the impact of Covid-19, which has made many people content with staying home. Others may be swamped with work, building a career, or dealing with their own family responsibilities. Perhaps they're new grandparents investing extra time in their grandkids, or they're caring for elderly parents. Some are trying to navigate the difficult balance of work and starting a family, and there are those who simply can't afford to socialize.

Before we rush to cut people out of our lives based on how they make us feel, we need to remember that it's not always about us. We may not have a clue about the hardships others are currently facing.

The Invasion of Parenthood.

If you going to have children.... Get ready to kiss your personal space goodbye because there is no escaping the invasion of parenthood.  

Many young parents cling onto their dreams and hobbies, refusing to let go. Well, I hate to break it to you, but once you have kids, your time is officially over.  Say goodbye to "me time"......There is no "me time." in parenthood just like there is no crying in baseball!   You aren't even able to sneak off into the bathroom with a crunch bar and a magazine without little fingers sliding around  under the door interrupting your peaceful moment and asking you if you are "using it"..... Probably before you finish the candy bar.  

So many young parents are not ready to give up on their own dreams or  hobbies, but your time is OVER once you start  having kids.  Sure you can always go back to it... but it should definitely be on pause.  It's time to devote the time you aren't working or taking care of the household chores to raising your kids.  That means carpools to school, volunteering for parties, coaching little league, making costumes... so many day to day needs just being met... Breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks.. Dentist appointments, hair cuts, playdates... again the list is endless.

But there is a silver lining. Enroll your kids in sports, dance, or anything they can thrive in. And here's the solution to having no time with adults.... get involved! Be active and participate alongside them.  Meet the  other kids parents, tailgate, chaperone... this gives you the leg up to get to know your kids friends too.  And who knows, you might discover a hidden talent or passion of your own in the process. 

So embrace the chaos, because soon enough, you can go back to your won hobbies and interests... but you can never get back your children's youthful experiences/

Private Vacation Spot

Our back yard is lovely.  I'm talking 5 star resort kind of lovely.  We have a fire pit, a pool, an outdoor living area and a stereo system with speakers surrounding the pool and beautiful landscaping complete with lights.

Dennis is always outside doing some type of work or just hanging out, but I couldn't see him.  When he finally came in I asked:

Me:  Where have you been?

Dennis: On vacation.

I hate it when that happens.

Do you ever get really worked up about something or just super pumped to tell your story, and in the middle of it, you completely forget what you were talking about? Then you start talking about some off-the-wall stuff and can never find yourself back to the story?

It's frustrating when that happens, especially when you were so passionate about what you were saying. 

It's like your mind just goes blank, and all those carefully crafted words vanish into thin air. 

And then you're left scrambling, desperately trying to remember what you were talking about, but it's like trying to catch smoke with your bare hands. 

It's a struggle to regain your train of thought and find your way back to the original story. And when you do, your enthusiasm isn't there, and your intended point was never made. 

I hate it when that happens.  

A Optimistic Sunday kinda Post

Sunday Funday... why do they call it that? It's not fun to know you have a whole work week ahead of you! That Monday is tomorrow and you're not even privy to the shitstorm that lies ahead, except to know it's coming! 

It should be Funday Saturday, but I guess that doesn't roll off the tongue like Sunday does! 

Regardless, Sundays do have their own charm. It's a day to relax and recharge, to spend time with loved ones or indulge in hobbies. Plus, it's the perfect opportunity to plan and prepare for the week ahead. So, while Mondays may bring their challenges, let's make the most of our Sundays and embrace the positivity they offer.