Why do women post mean things about men when they break up. Even if they are assholes.... When picking a man... women need to take responsibility for the bad ones too. He might have snuck in the door and fooled you at first... but its you that accepted that first date, and then the second date.
You're suppose to do your PI work and talk to friends, and coworkers and family. IF not to protect yourself, to protect your children.
Does he treat his mother well?
Does he treat his children well?
How does he talk about his ex?
Does he pay child support or make a phone call to his own kids, and not just on the special occasions?
It's you that decides to introduce him to your family. To your friends. And to your children. It's you that notices when things aren't quite right, but choose to ignore it anyway and still move in with him thinking that you two will become a family even though it's you that continue to do most all things alone.
Still working full time to only split the bills and doing the house work with little to no help from him, and running the kids to places he never wants to go or participate in. Why are you not seeing these signs?
It could literally save you years of heartbreak and self confidence.
It's you that allow this man to discipline for your children or notice there is no bonding happening or family trips.
And it's on you if you're allowing it for days, weeks, months or years, thinking it would get better or he would change.
Yeah he may be a jerk, but it's your responsibility to know the limits not just for you , but for your children. It's your job to make better decisions. And if you think it's all his fault... you have already failed your job.
